I haven’t posted for a bit as I haven’t really been doing much except doing paperwork for Bill’ s estate. I plan on posting mom often to document my life as a widow. There are some plans that Bill and I made together that I will either do by myself or, take Aimee with me or send both Nick and Aimee.
I am still a season ticket holder to La Comedia, the local dinner theater and plan to do that next year too. We had a reservation on Bill’s birthday to see Matilda. I took Aimee with me for that. I have neighbors that I plan to take to other shows and some I will do myself. It was a really good show.
Nick and Aimee are keeping me busy with visits to their house, dinners out and dinners in. I plan to let them know they will not have to make sure I am included all the time. Our camping group is spending July at a campground that is 16 miles from our house. I plan on visiting on both Friday and Saturday since it is so close. I will be taking things for the potlucks. They are also having dinner at a restaurant we go to for Bill’s liver (yuck!) so I will:meet them there. .
I have finished most of the paperwork for Bill’s estate but there is always more. Things appear that I didn’t even think about. Next week I have to drive out to Wright Patt base to update my ID and turn in his. Because I don’t trust the “you only need 2 forms of ID”I plan to take all my paperwork. Some of those include my birth certificate, marriage license, drivers license, DD214, social security card and anything else I can think of.
So it has been just under a month since Bill passed and I am doing OK, at least on some days. I a trying to keep to our regular schedule. It is really hard as it is hot and muggy outside. I have been going to class when I don’t have an appointment. Nick said I am not supposed to make major changes for at least 30 days.. I am thinking about a dog but that can wait. I did make a permanent change today. I got a second set of piercings in my ears today! Not bad for a 71 year old! It has only been 50 years.
My birthday this year was a bit subdued as it was only a few days after Bill passed. The kids wanted me to have a bit of happiness so they took me out to dinner at Cooper’s Hawk. It was a good dinner and we had a nice time.
The next week started the many phone calls and the massive amount of paperwork. One thing I didn’t think of, once you contact a company they immediately shut down any electronic access to accounts, so even though I had passwords to the accounts I could no longer access them. I still need to contact companies to get final statements and find out how to get tax forms. One thing that really got to me was that on our way home from the hospital on the 3rd, we stopped and ordered our new glasses. In April Bill had cataract surgery and we wanted to get his new glasses so he could see out of his left eye. We really thought we had at least 6 months before anything happened. Anyway the new glasses came in after he passed.
I have been slowly going through Bill’s stuff. I kept some things but most of his clothes were donated to Vietnam Veterans of America. I donated all the leftover medical things, some additional clothes, all the glasses, his hearing aids, and some household items from the rig to an organization called Mathew 25 Ministries. They do a lot of work around natural disaster sites and war torn areas. I did find it a bit hard to clear out his stuff as I would start then veer off and do something else instead. I did find it interesting that I had trouble making myself vacuum the floors and clean the bathrooms. Those were Bill’s job and I couldn’t make myself do them for a couple of weeks. I haven’t touched the garage yet and probably won’t for a long time.
So the last few weeks have been both good and bad. It is day by day and hour by hour. I still expect to see him at his computer in the office or roll over in bed and expect to see him there. Once thing I have discovered. I always thought cooking for 2 was hard, let me tell you, cooking for 1 is darn near impossible! So I have planned leftovers after cooking. I am trying not to get in the habit of eating out a lot.
So I may start posting a bit more. We will see